Is the Law of Attraction Real?

Believe in yourself

I was first introduced to the Law of Attraction when I saw the movie, The Secret, years ago. I also heard the Law shared frequently by success gurus as the way to achieve money, success, and happiness. And I read about it in Jerry and Esther Hicks’ book Ask And It Is Given. And you know what, back then, I bought it.

Who wouldn’t want to be able to manifest whatever they desire.

The idea that we are so powerful we can create whatever we want in our lives is an attractive idea. Until you begin to realize the Law of Attraction apparently means you are responsible for everything you attract: the good, the bad, and the ugly. And as I wrote previously on this blog, I don’t buy into that.

A few years ago I began questioning the Law of Attraction.

In fact, I began questioning a lot of things I had been taught by the success gurus. Because despite the fact that I set goals, created vision boards, and took massive action, many of the things I desired did not manifest in my life. And many things I did not desire did manifest. Upon further study I learned that for the Law of Attraction to work, you not only have to focus your mind on what you desire, and take action, you also have to hold the same vibration as that which you desire. I suppose this means being energetically in sync with what you desire. I’m not sure I could tell you exactly what that means or how to accomplish it.

I’m also not sure it’s humanly possible. Here’s why.

Perhaps the Law of Attraction is an energetic law that exists in nature. Like attracts like, 100% of the time. It may happen unconditionally with atoms and molecules. But is it applicable to humans? Can human beings really achieve and maintain a total vibrational match to that which they desire? Or, because human beings have minds that think (and yes, sometimes think negative thoughts due to fears, past history and conditioning), is it realistic to expect a human to truly maintain their own vibration, even if they understand what that means?

After all, our ability to think is what separates us from most other animals.

But is it possible that our minds and that ability to think also make applying the Law of Attraction to get what we want, virtually impossible?

Perhaps in an ideal world, if we were supremely conscious beings, it would be another story. But let’s face it, how many of us are that evolved? Most of us are imperfect beings, just doing the best we can. We may strive to maintain a positive attitude, yet sometimes fall into negativity. We may seek to maintain emotional stability, but we have hearts and feelings that get hurt, that experience doubt, and that feel insecure sometimes. The reality is as human beings we have thoughts, we have programming, and we have the ability to make choices. We don’t simply react energetically according to some law. Our minds have a way of blocking that from happening. Does that mean the law is invalid, flawed, or simply hard to apply to the human experience? Honestly, I don’t know. I only know what I believe.

And I believe the Law of Attraction is a belief more than a law.

Just like religion. Just like life after death. Just like so many things we can’t see or touch. And, as such, there will probably always be people who will argue both sides.

I also believe it’s important for each of us to believe in ourselves. I believe we must establish our own belief system, just as we do when it comes to religion, life after death, and everything else that’s hard to prove. That may require educating yourself, or exposing yourself to different theories until you discover what you believe to be true. Or at least until you decide what best serves you in your life.

Here’s what else I believe.

I don’t necessarily believe in the Law of Attraction, but I suppose I’m still open to proof that might convince me otherwise (I’m actually re-reading Ask And It Is Given through different eyes and I’m curious to see if my takeaway this time around will be different). I believe in keeping an open mind. I believe in the power of positive thinking. I believe negative thinking can lead to negative experiences. And, while they may not be able to attract things, I do believe our thoughts are powerful and most definitely influence how we see and experience the world. I believe if you change your thoughts your life will change. But it’s more about the lens you’re viewing the world through, than what your thoughts attract.

That’s what I believe. How about you?

 

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6 comments on “Is the Law of Attraction Real?

  1. Once again, wonderfully insightful!

    I heard about The Secret and the Law of Attraction through you and your blog postings. I dove into it and drank the Kool Aid. In the end I came to many of the same conclusions you did. The the Law of Attraction doesn’t work.

    I was much happier when I became a full fledged atheist and took 100% responsibility for my life. It was liberating because no longer was my fate in the hands of any invisible being or force. I couldn’t blame the universe, god, spirit or whatever for the things that did or didn’t happen to me or the choices I made.

    I have a hard time with the Jerry and Esther Hicks books. They claim to channel some spirit that tells them all these nuggets of positive information. I don’t buy it. Some people run around and say spirits and god speak to them and we buy their books. Others do it and it’s called schizophrenia. :)

    It’s like I say: “Will convert for evidence” :)

    Thanks, Deb!
    Brian

  2. Brian,
    You offer a great example of being open, trying something on for size to see how it fits, and being willing to let it go if it doesn’t work for you. I honestly believe that doesn’t make it “right” or “wrong” … just a personal choice. I think the problem I experienced with some of the things I was taught, is that the teachers were so convincing that I assumed it had to be true and it had to work for me. As I shared in my book, I learned that’s not always the case. Not that I think we ought to go through our lives as a skeptic–there is a place for beliefs, even in things we can’t see or touch–but we shouldn’t just take everything at face value. We need to do our own due diligence, and in the end, as you and I both are doing, find what works best for us. Thanks for chiming in!

  3. OK, gotta weigh in on this one too Debbie. :)
    This is very interesting for me, because I decided that I was going to conduct an ‘experiment’ in 2013. (I’m also trying to blog about it too…) To summarize, I decided I was going to dip my toes in the ‘energy practice’ side of life. Try some things and see what happens. Here’s what I can tell you one month in:
    I notice a small difference. It has only been 4 weeks and I have not been consistent, but I have noticed I’m capping my temper a lot sooner than I would have a few months ago. I believe I am getting more accomplished– still not as much as I would like, but I do need to balance productivity with my health (as that was a cause for concern last year).
    You see, I am not only a very logical person, I am extremely intuitive. My ‘gut’ will be telling me to do one thing, but then logic will jump in and rationalize doing the opposite. And guess what? I should’ve listened to my intuition.
    I think that intuition is not just basal instinct from our caveman days. When I have my ‘quiet time’, I really can ‘hear’ an inner voice. (No, I’m not schizophrenic, thanks Brian.) It’s just a *knowing*, it’s really tough to explain. Thus I came to this idea of making tiny changes, observing and recording any results, like a science experiment. It would quiet my rational mind so my intuitive voice could be heard and recognized.
    I agree that keeping an open mind is key. I never stop questioning.
    And yes, how you think and see the world shifts the kind of world you live in. Two sisters, raised together – quite literally… same parents, same sports, same teachers, same activities. One grows up and sees grief and misery and conspiracy all around her. The other grows up to see beauty and opportunity whenever she opens her eyes. Both college educated, both smart. both good moms. One makes more money than the other, but the ‘poorer’ one is generally happier. Both suffer from bouts of depression. One is divorced and does not have many friends or social life. The other is married for many years and is outgoing and has many interests.
    How do you explain the outcome… except for what they think about, and therefore, bring about? Your attitude really does determine your altitude. :)
    Absolutely we are 100% responsible for our thoughts, behaviours, actions, beliefs… and the outcome from all of them. That is illustrated with the sisters too, but those of us who do believe in a higher power ‘preach’ that as well, and will tell you that blame does not work. God gives us free will, we choose, and these are the results. Good bad or indifferent, it is what it is. We created it.
    Dare I say, we *attracted* it.

  4. Thanks for sharing such a thoughtful response Patricia. I like your idea of conducting an experiment. I think we all ought to do more of that. Trying out theories to see how, or if, they work for us, instead of just taking everything at face value. I don’t think it’s about being skeptical. I just think it’s about being smart. I’d love to hear how your experiment turns out as time goes on. A lot of what you wrote about is what I DO believe… and that is what we think, and our attitude, DOES influence our life. Whether it’s “attraction” or just how we experience things is the question I suppose. And perhaps, it’s all just semantics.

    I too follow what I call “inspiration” a lot. I journal, and go running, and spend quiet time daily, and through those activities my gut or intuition or higher power or higher self or inner voice (or whatever you choose to call it!) provides me with a lot of guidance, which I do follow. So I’m definitely with you there. :-)

  5. While I believe The Law of Attraction is a truth I also believe that it is much more complex than the explanation in The Secret. My belief comes from observing the results of myself and several other people I worked with in a sales position. I often had much better results than the other sales people which I believe was due to my ability to tap into conscious use of The Law of Attraction. I was the top sales person for this business for six years in a row and their first ever 6 figure sales person, selling over one million in a year. I was often asked just how I managed to sell to the best and largest accounts with less prospecting then anyone else, every year. I could not explain to them how I tapped into the Law of Attraction to attract my perfect customers.

    However, I do not believe that you can manifest what ever you desire by just visualizing what you want. I teach a class on how to create a Vision Board which includes goal setting and action steps to manifest your Vision. I do believe there are also outside influences which we can not control but how we respond to them will determine the end results.

    I am now a Hypnotherapist and coach and I understand how powerful our subconscious beliefs are. We often believe we are doing everything “right” to manifest what we want but do not get the results we desire. If this is a repeated pattern it is my expirence that there is ALWAYS an UNCONSCIOUS belief that is holding us back. Understand, these beliefs are unconscious and act like our operating system on our computer, all our other programing works from them and they keep us from reaching our goals and dreams. It may appear that The Law of Attraction doesn’t work, but what is really holding you back is an unconscious belief. When you identify and “re-frame” these beliefs you will see your results change. This is not based on reading others theories but on personal expirence and working with my clients.

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