Life Without Facebook (Sort of): Part 4

It’s been nearly one year since I left Facebook.

And, it’s been nine months since I stepped back into Facebook in a very limited capacity.  I haven’t written too many updates because frankly there was nothing to report. The world did not end when I opted-out of the largest social networking site in the world. My business didn’t come to a screeching halt. My books didn’t stop selling. Readers didn’t stop showing up for my blog. None of the things I feared would happen came to fruition.

About all that DID happen was I became less irritated.

However, as I reported back in February, I chose to re-join Facebook that month in a very limited capacity so I could participate in a private group for an online learning website. Facebook is where they host their faculty forum, and I felt it would be beneficial to interact with other instructors as I was stepping into the world of online teaching. And, for the most part, it was helpful to have a place to ask questions and compare notes with other teachers. After I published my first course, I was invited into two other private groups hosted by this same online learning website. All total I found myself in three of these online teacher groups. Since online teaching is the primary focus of my business this year, it made sense.

I vowed at that time to keep my personal profile stealth.

No friends. Not even family members or people I know or meet in person. Instead of following people, I choose to join groups or follow select pages that interest me or are necessary for my work. And, for the most part I’ve found this works well for me.

But then it started happening again.

A few months ago I once again found myself getting irritated by posts I was seeing. I was reminded how rude some folks can be when networking behind the safety of their computer screen. I also encountered people sharing “expert” advice on activities they hadn’t yet done themselves. Maybe it’s just me, but I believe someone should have actually done something before offering advice to someone else about the best way to do it.

My response to that irritation?

I left that particular group. Life is too short to get in online arguments with people I don’t know and who don’t know me. Despite how much time I was spending there, I don’t miss it. That says a lot right there!

Most recently, I’ve also begun to notice how much time and negative energy people invest in complaining on Facebook. I’ve also experienced how easy it is to get sucked into that complaining. In this particular case I admit the people complaining do have something to complain about (I won’t go into details, I will just say it is warranted). However, after awhile it gets old. And, it’s certainly not productive. It just becomes a bitch-fest. I really don’t need to be a part of that. I’d much rather focus on moving forward than rehashing things I can’t control or that have upset me.

So, once again I find myself stepping back.

And, THAT seems to be the recurring theme this past year!

Every time I start using Facebook more, it doesn’t take long before it starts becoming a problem again. And I find myself thinking I need to spend LESS time there.  It’s a pretty good validation of my decision to leave in the first place. And, of the addictive nature of social media. So, I will be doing my best to check into Facebook just once a day. And if I don’t see anything that’s necessary for my life or business, I am committing to logging off. I know it probably won’t be easy. It’s easy to get pulled in. But I’m going to do my best, because clearly, the writing is on the wall regarding me and Facebook!

 

About Debbie

After spending 32 years in marketing, Debbie now spends her time blogging, teaching online courses, doing volunteer pet therapy, and encouraging others to follow a more inspired path through life.

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