What I’d Tell My 25-Year-Old Self

Today is my 52nd birthday.

I can’t believe I’m 52. I certainly don’t feel it. I like where I am in my life. I don’t think I’d go back to a younger day. But with all the wisdom and experience I’ve accumulated over the years, I do wish that sometimes I could go back and let my younger self in on a few secrets. Tell her what to expect. Not the details mind you. I wouldn’t want to know specifically what was going to happen. Rather, just some words of wisdom to live the next 25 years by, compliments of my older, wiser self.

So here goes.

A few things I wish I could tell my 25-year-old self about money, success, and happiness.

Money

Learn to live on less than you make. Regardless of what anyone else will try to tell you, that is the real secret to financial freedom.

Success

Success is relative. Don’t measure yours based on other people. And don’t use it to measure your self worth. Do what fulfills your purpose and makes you happy.

Happiness

Be present. Don’t worry so much about the past or the future. Accept what is. Let it go and move on. Realize that whatever it is, good or bad, it’s temporary. So enjoy the good while it’s here, and don’t let the bad take you out. Just remember, this too shall pass.

 

 

 

About Debbie

Debbie is an author, blogger, online teacher, business owner, and mid-lifer. She's writes on a wide range of topics, from marketing, money and success, to finding meaning at midlife. If it's on her mind, you'll find her writing about it!

5 comments on “What I’d Tell My 25-Year-Old Self

  1. Debbie,

    Happy birthday!!

    What a delightful question. What shall I tell my younger self?

    Remember to breathe. You are perfectly fine. Right here, right now. Whatever is going on is temporary. All of it – what seems good, what feels hard…all the feelings are temporary.

    Find your own center, and stand in it. Let other people stand in theirs. Appreciate the differences, the connections, the similarities, the synchronicities – appreciate it all.

    Always err on the side of kindness.

    When you wonder what the point of it all is – the point is to live it. To be here, be present, show up and feel it. Feel each and every moment as fully as possible. Do things that scare you. Put down the camera and be in the picture. Run down the sand dunes.

    Choose to feel good. When you are inclined to do something that feels good, do it. Focus on what you love. Move in that direction.

    Be curious. When you feel like you’ve got something to prove, choose to laugh instead. Love the part of you that wants to prove, and then let it go. Relax into being curious. It’s OK to know what you know, it’s OK to not know what you don’t know yet. It’s all OK. There is nothing to prove.

    Know yourself, and trust. Any time you’re afraid, fall back into gratitude. Remember the number of times you have been supported in amazing and seemingly magical ways, and trust that this will continue. Trust that the support is there even when you are too scared to see it, feel it, or even imagine it. It is there. You will find, as you go along, that it is always there, even when it takes you years to see the “how” of it all. Trust yourself. Trust me.

    You can trust life.

  2. Happy Birthday Debbie! Hope your day was enjoyable.

    I’d tell my 25 year-old self to value and protect the relationships in my life, both present and future. I’ve come to realize how much of life is made up of good relations with others. May my next 25 years be more fruitful in this important area of life.

  3. Well happy birthday my love! I turned 52 in Sept and I have so many things on my bucket list. I would tell my 25 year old self to slow down and enjoy life. Everyday is a wonder to behold. Learn to forgive others and yourself. Sometimes you just have to chase that rabbit down the hole and explore new ways of thinking. Love, laugh and live~

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