Breaking Up. Letting Go. Moving On.
Very often the right thing to do, but definitely not easy.
I’ve had two experiences with this in the past week, one personally and one through my daughter. We both needed to let go of something we weren’t quite ready to let go of.
For my daughter, it was her college. She graduated in May and it was tough for her to leave.
Then, about a month ago, while looking for a job to help finance grad school, she had the opportunity to apply for a full time job at her old college. It seemed perfect. It was a one-year engagement, at a place she loved. It would allow her to make money for grad school. And, it would enable her to be back with her friends.
It wasn’t to be.
The job went to someone else, and right about the same time she would have been heading back to school for the new year, she was came face-to-face with the fact she wasn’t going back. I think in a way, the job was a way NOT to let go. There were plenty of pluses to the job, but there are also many pluses to her moving on. Another job is pending, and she will likely be able to start grad school in six months instead of 12.
That didn’t make it any easier to let go. Knowing it’s the right thing, doesn’t make it easy.
In my case, I’ve been part of a small mastermind group for nearly two years.
It’s been a wonderful support group and has been truly instrumental in my journey to following inspiration. I can honestly say I wouldn’t be who I am today, or where I am today, without their love and support.
That said, for the past few months my little voice of inspiration has been telling me it’s time to move on. As much as I love these people, for me, the mastermind has served its purpose and it’s time to let go, and open up space for whatever is next.
I’ve been putting off the decision.
I didn’t want to let them down. But it kept nagging at me. Today I broke the news. It was hard, but it felt right. They will continue to be dear friends, but it’s time for our relationship to change. I know that in my heart, even if it hurts.
In the past, I’ve held on too long.
I’ve been afraid to let go and move on. From jobs. From businesses. From friendships that no longer feel right. And, I’ve become resentful in the process. When I’ve finally let go, I’ve often asked myself why I waited so long. The things that opened up as a result of letting go always outweighed what I was leaving behind. And, they’ve helped me continue to grow and move forward on my journey.
Yes, breaking up is hard to do. But sometimes it is exactly what we need to do.
I’ve learned when I listen to my heart, it never steers me wrong. It sometimes pushes me into uncomfortable places, but I always grow and learn from them. And, that’s a good thing in this journey we call life.