“Hope sees the invisible, feels the intangible, and achieves the impossible”
A few years ago my daughter gave me a framed picture with this quote.
While I’ve always appreciated it, I gained a new perspective this week.
The last few years have been tough, filled with professional frustrations and personal challenges. I won’t go into details (I do share some of it in my book Breaking the Spell) and I don’t want you to feel sorry for me. I know many people have it much worse. I do realize how blessed I am. I am also learning that while these challenges have been tough, they’ve also been, and continue to be, a huge growth experience for me.
I’m learning everything is about perspective and judgement.
My perspective and judgement about what’s happening in my life, and what isn’t.
As I realize this, I’m getting more comfortable with the concept of change. The idea that nothing is static. Not my career. Not my business. Not the economy. Not my relationships. Not the world. They are ALL in a constant state of evolution. And it’s OK.
However, when you hold on too tightly to what is, it makes it very difficult to embrace the inevitable change. To see the positive it can bring. To even be open to it. Because it always feels like you’re losing something.
The truth is that every ending can be a new beginning.
As I shared last week, I just lost my dog Maverick. My furry best friend for nearly 13 years. And it was extremely hard. All I could feel was loss.
I’ve mourned similarly about some personal situations, relationships, and what feels like a constant series of changes in my career and various business ventures. I see now that I’ve been allowing these transitions to feel like loss instead of allowing them to be more about the inevitable ushering out of the old and in with the new.
Who could have guessed that losing my dog, and bringing a new puppy into my home would be the biggest teacher of this lesson for me? Not me… until this week.
I’m seeing that my old dog was actually preparing me for this new journey.
Oh, he probably didn’t know it and I sure didn’t. But isn’t that how it often is in life? We don’t realize that what we’re going through is just the next step on our path. That it’s preparing us for what’s to come.
Just as Maverick was preparing me—with middle of the night wakings and accident clean-ups—to care for a new puppy, before I even knew I would be getting one, all that has and is happening in my life and career is doing the same. It’s just that when you don’t have a crystal ball to know what’s coming, it makes it tough to appreciate in the moment.
My new puppy is helping me see more clearly every day, that transitions can be good even when they’re painful. If you’re ready and willing to let go, and trust, and be open to what’s next.
As they say, when one door closes another one opens.
I suppose in my case, the new door’s name is Hope.
And I am stepping into it with everything I have… an open heart and an attitude of gratitude and curiosity about where this new adventure will lead, both personally and professionally. I know it won’t always be smooth sailing. I know I will still face challenges. But I feel like I will now face them with a different perspective.