While most of us don’t like to think we’re driven by money, the truth is we are. In a survey I conducted among 500 people, 70 percent reported that at least half of the decisions they make in their life are driven by money. Additionally, 55 percent said money played a large role in decisions about how to spend their time.
How did we become so driven by money?
Perhaps our tough economic times are to blame. As Lynne Twist shares in her book, The Soul of Money, “In the grip of money, those wonderful qualities of soul seem to be less available. We become smaller. We scramble, or race to ‘get what’s ours.’ We often grow selfish, greedy, petty, fearful, or controlling, or sometimes confused, conflicted, or guilty. We see ourselves as winners or losers, powerful or helpless, and we let those labels define us….”
It’s easy to connect your self-worth to the amount of money you have.
I certainly saw myself as a winner when things were going well and was quick to brand myself a loser when they weren’t. I have definitely let myself be defined by my level of success and income in the past.
I have nothing against money.
It’s certainly nice to have. In many ways it makes life easier, however I’ve learned that more doesn’t necessarily make life better. The issue I have, and the one Lynne Twist illuminates in her book, is the hold we’ve allowed money to have on us. The enormous amount of power and energy we’ve given it. The way we’ve let it take over lives, rule our decision-making, and define who we are.
I believe it’s time to put money back in its place and remove our emotional attachment to it.
It’s time to re-frame money for what it really is: currency created to facilitate the exchange of goods and services.